Wednesday, March 14, 2012


My husband,

I love you.

Happy 3 years of living our vows, every day.

We've gone through the shit, and we have had a few glorious moments which I can hope I will never forget.

We have had our days and even short weeks of triumph and an even more precious bond.

You still make me laugh. You still teach me things, every day.

You introduced me into a world of new adventures, new images. You taught me what "Steampunk" was (and was NOT), and you welded me a throne- "For my Queen" you said. I still have it, and will as long as I live.

You crafted me matching Steampunk Goggles to your own; but with all the details for me.

The "something blue" from our wedding is kept inside the Codex you made.

You introduced me to the 9th Doctor, and in turn I showed you the 8th, and who *my* Doctor was growing up. We enjoyed laughing at the humour of Tom Baker together.

After our first real and proper date you had my heart when you said you would be happy to just to watch "Serenity" with me- no pressure for anything more than sharing a love of Joss. We did.

You showed me what the Firefly RPG was. I showed you my film collection and musicals; you had me laughing my pants off at your Jeeves & Wooster collection.

You introduced me to so many mediums of Science-Fiction I did not know existed. We bonded over shared hobbies, and you introduced me to some shows and writers I aspire to be like. You introduced me to strong creative women like Jane Espenson, Marti Noxon, and Cherie Priest.
I introduced you to my favourite female authors like Syne Mitchell and Laurie R King.

You were fine and happy that we proposed to each other.

You loved having a bride who wore a Red, not White, dress.

You wore a kilt for me.

We had two days of Honeymoon looking at Steam Trains. My heart was so big to see how happy you were around those engines and steel and steam.

You worked for me, while you could. You wrote for me.

We shared books, and stories.

You had me read "Watchmen"; and we both took a love story from that. Never knowing then how true it would really be.

You respected how having Aspergers' makes me- different. My "death shadow" never scared you. You were interested in learning about what I was in school for. You were not scared that I was around dead humans. You were proud of the work I did. You told me often.

You made me feel that even though it was often confusing, I could in fact, love that deeply.
You helped me to understand my feelings, understand what the stimulus was. Understand the motivation that falls in line with what we consider to be "unconditional love".

You built me a garden. Twice.

You took me to 'Cons. You gave me the chance to meet some of my favourite actors and idols.

You spent years bonding with my cat, even when she was not nice at all.

You care. My Wash, you care.
You have always been supportive of who I am, what I love, and what I care about.

You give me the motivation and inspiration to always be better, to be patient, to be kind, to be loving.

You are the person I want to touch as I fall asleep every night. You are the person I want to speak my last words to every night, "I love you".

You push me to keep living, every day.

Even in the bad times, you are still my best friend.

I will take happily every day I am allowed to wake up next to you, my love. For however long we get.

Happy 3rd Wedding Anniversary.

Whatever I do for you, I can hope it is a reflection of the love you have given to me.

Thank you for these 3 years of being my husband.
Thank you for being my Wash.
I love you.


  1. Just found your blog and I've been reading your story. What you're going through is horrible and I can't even begin to imagine what it's like. Your strength is inspiring though and I hope happier times are coming your way soon.

  2. So happy for you and your love! What an amazing "love letter" to an amazing man! Thank you for sharing your story with us all!!

  3. Happy Anniversary to you two. I hope you know, I created an online campaign to help raise money for families like your own. You can visit it here: Whatever money I receive, I will donate to you to help with bills, etc. I had an uncle who was diagnosed with a brain tumor so I know completely what you're going with. Please know, I will do whatever I can to help!

  4. There's something in my eye. Hang on. . .

  5. A very happy anniversary and a lovely letter :)

  6. Tashi, I have just started reading your blog through a link in regretsy. You are amazing. I was married to my husband just 6 days ago and to even contemplate going through what you and wash are dealing with crumples me. I am not a rich girl. I am not a clever or really a crafty girl. But i notice you like postcards and thought maybe I could send you some from Sydney, Australia. I actually live in a suburb next to one called Tempe. You and wash will be my thoughts. Cancer is a bitch. X

  7. Also here from Regretsy and I've read through all your entries. Your experience is so sad, but so touching. So many people wouldn't have had the strength to get this far. *hugs* Hope our April's Army comes through for you both!

  8. I came across your story randomly, and I'm so happy that I did. You should be so proud of yourself. Your husband made an excellent choice in wives. Choosing to share your story gives hope, insight and understanding to the world. I hate that you have to face this, but love the way you are going about it. I don't know you, but I know the world is better for having you. Thank you for your courage, your candor and for sharing your love.

  9. Just stumbled across this on G+

    Happy anniversary and we're with you today ...

    I hope you have at least some more time that is valuable.

    Thank you for sharing your love with us

  10. I hope it was a very happy anniversary.

    My name is Eric Vickers. I'm a student at the Savannah College of Art and Design and today I read an article about your search for a custom TARDIS urn. If you still seek such a thing I'd be happy to construct one absolutely free. I minor in ceramics and would love to work with you and help you and your husband fulfill this wish.

    I couldn't find your email so i figured this was most effective. Please contact me. If you are interested, I can complete the piece in maybe a matter of weeks. My email is:

    I wish you both great joy.

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