tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post2888700479705364009..comments2024-03-04T02:43:55.369-08:00Comments on Learning to Hope: Looking for Bat Countryscotvixenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03934172691552719646noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post-63717126831229599182012-05-05T11:16:59.740-07:002012-05-05T11:16:59.740-07:00You have my heartfelt sympathy. Mom was diagnosed...You have my heartfelt sympathy. Mom was diagnosed in 1999, she died in 2001. Her progression was very different, in that the last year or so she was pretty much asleep. It is exhausting, it just sucks the marrow out of your bones.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02475433199308666648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post-6190312730463034122012-05-05T10:19:12.705-07:002012-05-05T10:19:12.705-07:00#1) In addition to the almost Inexpressible Cruel...#1) In addition to the almost Inexpressible Cruelty Of Cancer to Wash, your own very understandable fear and terror, Tashi............ constantly (and cruelly, too) throbs-on............ unabated. <br /><br />Some days Wash, as you've said, "feels/remembers/thinks he is in a time around 2005-2009"; so Wash (mentally/emotionally) is then at least in "in a place"----(albeit, of course, unwittingly)----where he can find some degree of Peace and Refuge, but you............ don't (mentally/emotionally) really have "a place" of your own for genuine Peace and Refuge............ except in the local, physical support you do have............ and in the thoughts/hearts/words of all your many Dear Readers. <br /><br /><br />#2) Right now, although it might not feel that way to you, you are doing everything you CAN do for Wash............ i.e., there's nothing "more" you can do, i.e., than what you're already doing. From now-on-out, one of the most important things that you can personally (continue to) do is to............ lean on others............ articulate support you need............ and accept every single offer of help and/or kindness. <br /><br />When Wash has those (ever-decreasing) periods of time when he's genuinely "in the moment," one of the greatest comforts Wash----(as a man)----can receive from your being there and living with him is............ not necessarily your trying to "do more"............ but simply Wash's *knowing* (FROM you and from trusted others) that when he's gone............ you "Will Be Taken Care Of" by those who love you and by those who care about you. <br /><br />For men, no matter what their ages, who have loved much----(as Wash most, most-certainly has loved you, Tashi)----being honestly told that their spouse (or partner) "Will Be Taken Care Of" often means EVERYTHING to them............ when Life............ hasn't been "fair" TO them, at all, you know. <br /><br /><br />#3) In the way (that we can) From Across The Miles, Jack and I are two----(whom Wash can count on)----to ensure that you "will be taken care of" afterwards, Tashi. <br /><br />(((*hugs*)))............Rosannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17290435002631069643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post-45485558647341916212012-05-05T08:43:33.845-07:002012-05-05T08:43:33.845-07:00I second pretty much what everyone above has said....I second pretty much what everyone above has said. Lots of hugs and prayers and love to you and Wash. Though we could never be a substitute for Wash, I hope you can still draw some strength and comfort from us readers, and know that we do truly care about you both.Randihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03331373213136406235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post-15852052600311919082012-05-05T06:46:38.033-07:002012-05-05T06:46:38.033-07:00Courage, friend. From all of us to you. There are ...Courage, friend. From all of us to you. There are so many of use who watch and follow and wish we could be there from across the wired world. We love you both, though we've never met face to face. We're here for you, and you won't ever need to mince words with us. We care. I care.Antonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11730609840563543747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post-83773300651719947382012-05-04T18:27:52.602-07:002012-05-04T18:27:52.602-07:00I just arrived here via the regretsy post. In fact...I just arrived here via the regretsy post. In fact I haven't a clue what to say, really, as there is no way an outsider could ever begin to fathom what is going on in your life. Reckon all I can say is that you are not alone, for what it's worth. What a cosmic joke- you guys don't deserve any of this. From the other side of the globe, I'll be thinking of you.lisbonlionesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14199372003999708772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post-34172370923473519012012-05-04T16:58:15.917-07:002012-05-04T16:58:15.917-07:00I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm new here- ...I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm new here- but I've been lurking for a bit. We went through glioblastoma with my father-in-law a few years ago. My husband and I had been married for almost 20 years at the time so we had a long history. It was a hard process even with him only being my FIL- I can't even imagine what you are going though. Hugs to you. I wish there was something I could say to make things better- but I know there isn't anything that can make that pain go away.<br />JudyJudy Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01121300109427407095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post-33709243906658048662012-05-04T13:43:18.243-07:002012-05-04T13:43:18.243-07:00I'm so sorry.I'm so sorry.Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18259304155714317111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post-33155891681216545392012-05-04T13:39:37.833-07:002012-05-04T13:39:37.833-07:00Oh, Tashi. I feel so helpless, on the other side o...Oh, Tashi. I feel so helpless, on the other side of the world. I wish I lived nearby so I could drop in and help in some small way. But I can't. All I can do is send love and best wishes, and try to reassure you that you have successfully dealt with a lot of shit over the last couple of years, and you do have the strength to get through this stage.<br /><br />You are an amazing, strong, incredible woman.<br /><br />Thinking of you both every day.MudgeeSTWShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11132599745927103290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post-26201155044915732062012-05-04T01:15:04.883-07:002012-05-04T01:15:04.883-07:00Sending as much peace and light as I possibly can....Sending as much peace and light as I possibly can. Luckily I'm in Tucson so it will reach you both quickly :)ElectricDaisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10019067899077684003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5062777672434332413.post-71659010504593461662012-05-04T00:55:42.142-07:002012-05-04T00:55:42.142-07:00(hugs)
lots and lots of them(hugs) <br />lots and lots of themMandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09532993736002840005noreply@blogger.com